If You Decide to Stay With Your Abuser
- Domestic Violence does not just go away. It will happen again. Protect yourself and your children by taking precautionary measures.
- Have an extra set of keys made and keep hem outside or with a trusted neighbor.
- Pack an emergency kit with things you and your children may need if you have to leave in a hurry, such as: clothing, toothbrush, diapers, etc. Keep this hidden in a safely accessible location (neighbor, garage).
- Try to put some money aside. If possible, start a checking and savings account even if the amount is only a few dollars. Make sure to have the statements sent somewhere else.
- Make copies of legal papers, bank books, insurance papers, children’s birth certificates, etc and keep with emergency kit.
- Work out a signal to a neighbor to call for help.
- During an attack, try to get out and run for help. If it doesn’t look like you can get out, go to a room that can be locked or barricaded, hopefully a room with a telephone.
- Develop a support network. Counseling, support groups, and social activities that develop self-esteem and self-worth are important.
- Read all you can about Domestic Violence. You are not alone. There is an alternative. No one deserves to be hit.